“Practice listening. Practice YOU questions. Practice the use of conversation to help a child grow in self-worth and confidence.”

       ~Martha Bullock 

Parenting isn’t rocket science, but I consider it to be one of the most challenging (and rewarding) jobs of all time.  It takes alot of hard work and conscious effort.  It also takes conversation.  Yes, this means you have to talk to your children! I can hear each and every one of you saying “I talk to my child.”  Did you know that we, as parents, spend an average of 7 minutes a day conversing with our children?  Yes…about seven minutes a day!  This seven minute conversation (which usually comes in bits and pieces) typically involves a few commands such as “Put your coat away.” Or,  ”You need to take the trash out.”  It might also involve a few questions that require short answers such as “How was your day?”  Or, “Do you have any homework?”  Our children might respond with a few questions of their own…”Can I watch T.V.?” or “Can I have a snack?” 

 I want you to think back….how long has it been since you’ve had an actual conversation with your child?  A conversation where you stopped “multi-tasking” and devoted “sitdown” time…much like you would if it were your best friend or neighbor?  Kids love to share what’s going on in their lives…if given the opportunity.  There is so much you can learn about your children just by listening to them! I want you to try something…schedule time to have a conversation with your child.  I know, they may look at you as if you’re from another planet!  But, do it anyway!  Better yet (so that you don’t get the funny stares), ask your child to help you with a project.  I find that kids really open up when they are engaged in an activity with you.  So, when you’re craving a little conversation with your child, invite them to cook dinner with you.  I guarantee your conversation will last longer than 7 minutes!